My Dumb Vacation

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Part Three: The heady froth of Midwestern Culture. Plus, infant expectorations.

There are fewer things more depressing than approaching the darker side of your mid-thirties wearing a Cult Rocks! t-shirt, cutoff jeans and sporting three days' worth of stubble, only to throw up on yourself.

Trust me on this one.

We'd made the Black Keys concert by 10:30 p.m. Had a few beers. Had dinner. Had a few more beers. Had a breath mint. Had another beer. And at this point, I was steady as Senator Kennedy during a floor vote. I could have piloted a B-52 stealth bomber while playing chess with a chimpanzee.

But then Dewey (without whom there can be no late-night trip to a Black Keys concert, I might add) suggests we should eat something.

"Why the hell should I," I slur confidently. "What I really need is another drink."

Dewey tries to explain the concept of solid food absorbing alcohol, thus acting as a catalyst for its entrance to the bloodstream and further enhancing the pleasures it has to provide. I wave away his suggestions as if they're a swarm of gnats, but finally give in when he offers to pay for my 35-cent cheeseburger if I pick up the next round of Jim Beam on the rocks. I eagerly agree. Sucker, I think to myself smugly.

An hour or two later, we're taking what I like to call the Drunken Royal Express: the Blue Line to Cumberland, where my car sits, waiting like the world's most patient wife after Last Call. The landscape outside the windows is suddenly swerving and dipping alarmingly. It's not the beer. It's not the lateness of the hour. It's not the Jonas Brothers currently playing on the speakers (probably). It's Mickey D's, angrily battling with my gut for domination. I forgot how lousy their food is once you're not an undergraduate any more.

I get up, grasp onto a nearby pole, and try to fix my eyes on a stationary point: the floor. Which also, as it turns out, dips and sways alarmingly. When the train stops at Montrose, several stops away from our final destination, I turn a pleading gaze on Dewey. He sighs, gets up, and we exit. I just barely manage to make it to the platform edge, my 35-cent cheeseburger charging like the Germans at the Battle of Stalingrad. I pause, fighting for control. I concentrate. I summon every ounce of willpower and self-control.

Brap. My Cult t-shirt has definitely looked better.

Dewey stands ready behind me with an ace up his sleeve: a Black Keys Rock! t-shirt, newly purchased at the Metro a scant few hours beforehand.

"You're true blue, pal," I say, drawing a hand across my mouth.

Dewey shrugs modestly. "The day I don't help a pal," he says, "is the day I can't remember where he parked. And you're not sleeping on my couch tonight, so don't even ask."

Is there any substitute in this world for a good friend? You tell me.

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The last I left you, Dear Reader, I was standing in my aunt and uncle's front driveway, teetering from exhaustion, ready to embark on a two-day binge of theater and Michigan culture. Which I did. I saw Julius Caesar with my family, fighting the urge to drop off for the first two acts, then watching wide-eyed as the remaining players in the tragedy ran themselves on their swords. My favorite scene: Brutus tells Lucius to hold his weapon, leaps upon it, and yells, "Sweet, merciful crap! I said the sword with the black handle, dumbass!" The blood spouting from his gut looked like Buckingham Fountain during the Taste of Chicago--how in hell they get such great special effects is beyond me. I also liked how Lucius managed to turn pale--how did they do that? with trick lighting or something?--and retch visibly as he was hauled away. I don't remember that line, though. Probably they cribbed it from a Baz Luhmann unused script or something.

That night, while my aunt and uncle stayed home and went through my bags for their New York gifts, I went back for All's Well that Ends Well. I got to see them rehearse a bit beforehand due to a special Discount Rate that I purchased without even knowing it. When Helena comes out to do her repartee with the Count, it got pretty entertaining:

HELEN: You have some stain of soldier in you: let me
ask you a question. Man is enemy to virginity; how may we barricado it against him?

PAROLLES: Keep him...uh, wait a minute, I know this line. Keep him...out! That's it!

HELEN: But he assails; and our virginity, though valiant, in the defence yet is weak: unfold to us some warlike resistance.

PAROLLES: There is, uh, none: man, sitting down before you, will...uh, do something nasty.

HELENA: Bless our poor virginity from underminers and blowers up! Is there no military policy, how virgins might blow up men?

PAROLLES: Uh, forsooth...thou...Hah! I get it now! "Blow up men," that's good!

HELENA: Jesus Christ, Franklin, learn your lines already, will you?

Ah, Franklin. You put Sir John Gielgud to shame.

The next day's visit to some high school to watch Fame! The Musical is a bit muddled in my memory. I don't remember any soliloquoys. Or dramatic monologues, or iambic pentameters. I do remember my uncle grumbling, "Somebody better run themself on a sword, or I'm outta here." And oh yeah, there was something about a Performing Arts high school. I gots to get me one o' them j-o-b's. Looks like all you have to do is periodically break into song. "These are my children...please take them away." I can see the rave reviews as I close my eyes.

And then it was time to take a train ride home. For four hours. Only to sleep for four more hours, and hit the Black Keys concert. And then sleep for four more hours. And then a drive to a wedding. A six-hour drive. To Saint Louis. Through...the Midwest.



Oh dear God. Not this again.

I hadn't been to a wedding in years where I had absolutely nothing to do but show up well-dressed (check), bring a gift (...hocked it) and dance with Kim and/or assorted female relatives (hey, it's not my fault every time a good song came up I had to go to the bathroom).

But the real scene-stealer, of course, was my nephew James.

James is the first newborn into my family since my brother was born three-plus decades ago, so of course he commands a lot of attention. He's already outperformed both my brother and myself at his age: he can say "da," he can clap, he can roll his finger across his lips and make a burbling sound, he can balance a checkbook, and he can even sort of dance, provided someone else does the motions and movement for him. At his age, my brother could roll onto his back. At my age now, I can barely avoid discharging fast food onto cheap concert t-shirts.

So it was no surprise when he managed to upstage practically every setting he appeared in. But the little guy got sick, probably due to the overpowering 100-degree heat (why the hell aren't August weddings outlawed already, anyway?) and so he wasn't too happy to put in an appearance at the church.

When the sitter and Kim arrived from the hotel with him in tow, I volunteered to get him from the car. My brother, who was standing at the wedding and was currently ushering, looked grateful. His wife didn't object. The sitter, whose last nerve was quickly unraveling, readily acquiesced. The only one who wasn't apparently grateful was James, who was howling lustily from the confines of his car seat.

Poor kid. He looked like an angel. A sweaty, full-throated, red-faced, two billion-decibel-loud seraphim.

I felt my heart fill to the brim with love for my nephew as I beheld him at his neediest. No fear, dear one. Your uncle is here.

I managed to unbuckle him, draw him out, hold him close. "I know, little guy," I crooned. "You just need a little understanding and love, and that's exactly why I'm..."

Brap. The little jerk threw up all over me.

"Well of all the..." Splutter splutter. "Somebody get this kid off me before I..." Splutter splutter. "Nobody ever told me babies vomit..." Splutter splutter.

My dignity thus discarded for the time being, I tucked him under my arm, sprinted to the church and lateraled him to my brother. As I grabbed the nearest box of wipes to rescue my good suit from baking in baby vomit, James shot a smug look in my direction. And as the bridal party descended on him to ooh and aah, clucking sympathetically over his soiled clothes, James leered appreciatively at his ready good luck, and my crappy situation.

Nephew: one. Uncle: zero.

I returned to my church pew sweaty, smelling a trifle vomitus and looking like I'd just ran a 10-K. My beloved, the Woman who Holds the Bottle Opener to the Beer that Is My Heart, cast a critical eye at the puke on my lapel. "Wow, twice in twenty-four hours?" she asked sardonically. "What are you, going for a record?"

Damn it. Got to stop telling her the stuff that embarasses me.

The ceremony ran longer than expected, so once we got assorted family and friends back to the hotel, it was time for a little drinky-poo. One turned into several, which turned into dinner, which then turned into a full-blown dance floor at the reception cum open bar. Charlie and the Nostalgia Number did live music, and it was right in the middle of a passable rendition of Journey's "Don't Stop Believing" that James made his triumphant return: cleaned up, bathed and in a new set of clothes. I, on the other hand, was wearing the same befouled suit, rumpled hair and harried manner I'd had before, relying, in the absence of soap and water, solely on vodka and tonic to disinfect myself.

"He is so cute, gushed a nearby bridesmaid.

I stood up straight, puffing out my chest in pride. "I'm his uncle, you know."

"You've got vomit on your lapel," she said without even looking in my direction. James, apparently overhearing, sneered at me.

A half hour later, I borrowed my nephew and stuck a finger in his direction. "Kid, you're lucky you're so damn cute," I growled. "Or you'd be swimming with the fishes right now."

He acknowledged my riposte by grabbing my outstretched finger and dribbling on my shoulder. Nephew, two; Uncle, zilch. My heart melted.

"All right, you get away with it this time. But when you grow up, you're taking me to a Black Keys concert. I'll explain why later."

Epilogue:

Setting: New Year's Eve, 2069. Kim and I are sitting in the living room, poring over old photo albums. We've just celebrated our first twenty-four hours of wedded bliss. Yes, late bloomers are we, but you can't put a label on love, and now, as the fire on the TV screen crackles cheerily while the pollution and depleted ozone layer decimates the landscape outside, we exchange memories of Days Gone By, occasionally clasping hands and downing shots of Jack Daniels.

Me:"Look at this one. This was what's-his-name's and whosit's wedding that one summer in that city with the arch-thing, remember that place? You were so lovely."

Kim: "And you were a hunk stud. Oh, and look at James. Who'd have thought the future President of the United States would do so much upchucking on someone not working for the UN?

Superficial, worldly-wise laughter ensues here. Maybe some geriatric groping on the side.

Kim:"And here you are, warning him not to throw up on you again. Just so cute!"

Me:"And here he is, dancing with a bridesmaid."

Kim:"Is that the bridesmaid you were flirting with?"

Me:"Flirting? Me? Hell no. I bragged about being his uncle."

Kim:"Sure, to a hot bridesmaid. What about all the old ladies hovering around him?"

Me: "Listen, woman, know your place! The Marriage Santification Act, passed by President George W. Bush hours before he left office (HR 2172-2 Section Seven Paragraph 2), makes it a crime for me to be spoken to like that in my own home!"

Kim: "Your home? You damn mooch! When are you going to start pulling your weight, get a job and pay me some rent?"

Me: "I told you, I'm in a transition period!"

Kim: "And I told you, I was only allowing five decades for you to find a job singing in a musical. I don't care how senile you are now!"

Me: "Why you...you...you..." Brap.

I forgot. Nonagenarians shouldn't drink after only poached eggs and Soylent Green for dinner.

Geriatric bickering ensues. By New Year's Day, 2070, we're filing for divorce, and I'm sleeping on Dewey's couch. Guess we should have seen that one coming.

NYC-49th and 6th-TROPIC zone bar is a lounge-type place with pounding yet manageable disco music, plenty of space, and waitresses in string bikinis. Journey's End turned out to be an outstanding play chronicling the pathos of the Great War. But it didn't have any waitresses with string bikinis. So I think it's only fair to turn my attention back to the excellent service I'm receiving.

I like this blackberry. This could be a problem.

Texan Indian Nuptuals:

Spent the weekend more or less bombed. Ajay's wedding was a blast, but I still have no idea what half the memorabila I walked away with the ceremony is for. Normal Indian weddings, I'm told are upwards of four hours long. This one was about an hour and change; after that, a ceremony with three open bars and no lines. I kept looking around for Saint Peter.

The night before, I made my famed toast--not reveling in it quite as much as I did at my brother's wedding, but enough to make a few references to the good old days of high school and Ajay's singleminded pursuit of top grades and good references. "Now there was a guy who never had his priorities straight," I said breezily. "Always work work work, never really taking the time to enjoy being a teenager..."

The room full of doctors, lawyers, bankers and vice presidents nodded sagely, taking in my rumpled suit and bloodshot eyes. Yes, they seemed to indicate, he's absolutely right. Success is overrated.

I blathered on a bit more about what kind of relationship I thought the two of them would have together, working purely on hearsay and a first impression, given the fact that I'd only met the blushing bride some two hours earlier, and then only for about five minutes. I concluded with best wishes, got moderate applause and a bear hug from Ajay. The following morning, I would charge a modest bar bill to his hotel room and congratulate myself on being a good friend.

Before the wedding, though, I hit Dealey Plaza. Always wanted to see the site. I've mapped out my voyage in the image below:

I might get in trouble for this...

Picture a man (or me, if you're going for realism) comfortably reclined on his sofa cum bed, a barely-read novel in his hand, the TV blaring The Simpsons with only half the usual amount of static, and a cat comfortably sleeping in a new bed (it being some three hours before said cat would decide to pee in said new bed). Kim is buzzing around getting ready for a small party we're going to in Sycamore, but I'm all decked out in my finest: sweat shirt, t-shirt, blue jeans without holes. It's the ideal kind of Friday night: somewhere to be, but nowhere too hectic. If this were a Norman Rockwell painting, I would have finally graduated to the old man with the pipe rather than the geeky red-haired eight-year-old who's always showing his rear end in the doctor's office.

Then a phone call comes. Kim answers it, mutters a few quick replies, then hangs up. My curiosity is mildly piqued at the quizzical look on her face. Upon mild interrogation, I learn that the host of the party just called on account of a show that's supposed to start on time.

My Spider Sense starts to go off a tad here. Previously, I'd been told this was a tupperware party, but one with free booze and food. "I'm there," I said.

Then I learned it was a candle party, but still with free booze and food. "Well, I'm still there...I guess," I said.

Then, after that phone call, I learned that there was a candle show to go along with it. "This doesn't have anything to do with me dressing in white robes and carrying a candle to some kind of altar for a human sacrifice, right?" I asked. "Okay, I guess I'm there."

It doesn't particularly speak well for my intelligence to note that I was more or less ambivalent about going to the party at this point. Key words like "presentation" "representative" and "candles" were not added together accurately in my subconscious; else I would have run to the hills like any sane person. And yet, I can hardly be blamed. I've heard of Patty Brite Makeup Girls and their suitcases of products. I'd heard of Avon calling. I vaguely remembered walking out of some kind of water purifier conference in Chicago some years ago. I'd never heard of someone selling candles like this.

Of course, I've never heard of a dating service for men who like sheep. But if I heard "dating service," "men" and "sheep," I suppose I could figure it out. Sadly enough, I did not figure last night out in time.

Well, we got there right in time to catch the last three-quarters of a fairly lengthy presentation on candles. There were short candles, long candles, middle-length candles; there were glass candle holders, multi-layered holders, ceramic holders; there were combinations of all of these hastily cojoined by some mad scientist in a mad scientist's candle making laboratory. The lady giving the presentation was effective enough--she knew enough about her material to keep an ongoing flood of commentary on the product line. The trouble was, she could tell by the look on my face that I didn't give a good goddam about candles, which made me minutely uncomfortable. I don't like to silently begrudge someone giving a presentation for their own livelihood (unless it's the band Like Hell opening for the Cult).

If that were all the evening provided, though, I could have lived with it. But things got a little weird soon enough.

First, the presenter had a strange little rule: Every time you heard the word "candle" you had to pass along a small candle that was being hot-potatoed around the room. If this were a lecture on the Big Bang, or perhaps the history of the automobile, it would have been a tad less distracting (again--not that I could have been distracted: distraction implies interest, and interest I had none). But since it's a presentation on candles, I couldn't help but wonder how this woman expected to keep anyone's interest for more than a milisecond if they were listening so hard for their turn to pass along the candle:

Presenter: Now when you light these candles--
Customer #1: Hey, she said candle! Pass it along!
Frenzied, drunken passing of candle. Wine spilled.
Presenter: Good job. Now like I was saying, when you light these candles--
Customer #2: Candle! Candle!
Another frenzied, drunken fumbling.
Customer #3: What were you saying about that candle?
Presenter: I have no idea--I didn't get that far. I was talking about this...thing (You can tell she's hesitant to say the word again, for fear of losing her audience's attention). You can use it on holiday occasions or just to set the right mood.
Customer #2: (drunk beyond human capacity) You're talking romance there, baby!
Presenter: Yes, the best way to set a romantic mood is by lighting a candle--
All: Candle! Candle!
Candle gets passed around; several more drinks are knocked to the floor.

At this point, I decided to get as drunk as I possibly could, and in the space of twenty minutes I downed three glasses of Merlot. Kim kept casting apologetic looks in my direction, which I perversely ignored. The two guys whose apartment this was taking place in sidled up to me and told me to go to the bathroom if I felt like throwing up, though I didn't know if he meant from the wine or from the presentation or from the rapidly-evaporating ennui from the repressed housewives around me.

It was a lot like being in a high school classroom, I must say. The presenter would start in on a monologue, one of the drunken housewives would chime in with a quip, everyone would giggle their asses off, and one or two more or less sober people would be reduced to hissing "Shhh!" to everyone else while the head presenter either smiled and kept talking, or smiled and waited for the ruckus to die down. I sympathize--I'll take a Basic Junior English class any day over those broads.

The topping "group activity/game" (a torturous phrase to me--it reminds me of those dorky getting-to-know-one-another games we used to play at Smelly's Camp when I was a wee slip of a lad) was called "Pass the Candle When You Hear the Name of a TV Show." Then the presenter read a fairly long speech about becoming a representative of the candle company (much like an Avon Lady, I would imagine) with the proper enunciation on certain words:

"I'd always wanted to live in a Little House on the Prarie, but I was Married With Children. So my dreams weren't quite there. But The Facts of Life are we all have to work hard at what we want, and these candles are a way to do that. You can be part of The A-Team of candle-selling and you and your family can all have a Silver Spoon in your mouth.

Everyone was congradulating himself/herself on managing to ferret out all the TV Show names when the clapping died down and all eyes fixed on me. The candle was still in my hand, where I had refused to relinquish it.

"Silver Spoon was no TV show," I said arrogantly. "I think you mean Silver Spoons."

Well that put everyone off their marmalade, and the presenter ran off into the nearest broom closet to cry her eyes out over my ruthless exposure of her ignorance of TV minutia.

Okay, okay, that didn't actually happen. I didn't even say anything about this little faux pas of pop culture, but I wished I had. At this point I'd downed most of the bottle of wine, and all the lit candles around me were beginning to swarm together in an eerie montage of lights, like one of those high-speed photographs of Lake Shore Drive. So smart-ass remarks would not have been out of the ordinary.

Then evaluation cards were passed around:

Question 1: Rate this presenter's performance from a 1-5.
My answer: "Not applicable. To me, candles are for getting rid of fart smells or cat pee reek. I can't see buying a crystal decanter for this purpose."

Question 2: How interested are you in obtaining more information on our merchandise?
My answer: "Not applicable. I haven't really gotten any information on this merchandise, though that's not the fault of the presenter."

Question 3: How interested are you in becoming a sales representative yourself?
My answer:" Not really interested at all, but what about combining it with bachelorette parties somehow? I could go into a striptease dance, and keep pulling out candles and somehow incorporating them into my act. Then, at the end of the show, they could be hosed off and sold."

I never did find out what the last two questions were. Kim took my card away from me and burned it before anyone could see it.

The good news is once the presentation died down and the crowds thinned, the evening was spent pleasantly enough. Kim showed off her wig, Scott showed off his computer, Bob played with his nephew, and I lowered the level of their wine bottles inch by beautiful inch.

But now I've become pathological about candles. Don't even mention them to me.